Wednesday, May 30, 2012

I'm a woman who likes to pay for herself. I see nothing wrong in that statement...

...But apparently it rubs a lot of people the wrong way!

A few curse words lie ahead. Fair warning.



I hate the looks, the questions and the remarks when I go out with the Boyfriend somewhere and say "Split the check, I'm paying for myself," or when I say "I'm buying my own ticket!"

I make my own money. I don't need to depend on him or anyone to pay for my food, my movie ticket or or that dress I saw on sale.  I can buy my own shit, thank you very much!

I hate having to justify myself to cashiers and servers.  Does no one believe a woman can be independent?  Do they have to look at him like he is forcing me to to do this or like he's a jerk for not swiping his card in my place?

He has no obligation to spend money on me.  He has every right to do whatever he wants with his money, and I'm not going to force him to pay for my whims.  If i want to more expensive meal, I will pay for it. If I want those cute shoes, I will buy them.  If i want to buy my own movie ticket, I will buy my own ticket.

There are times that he tells me he wants to treat me to dinner or a movie...and I'll let him. Do I like it? No.  He knows I don't...but if his heart is in it, I'll let it happen.
And sometimes, I'll treat him to dinner or whatever.  He doesn't like it either, but hey...it's how we do things around here!

Women fought for equality, people. Women fought to be paid like men, to vote like men, to drive like men. Women claim they can do anything without a man.  So then why can't a woman pay for herself, or pick up the tab now and then?

The guy at the movie ticket counter the other day basically made me justify myself for buying my own ticket.  I mentioned all of the above. Or I could've just said "because fuck you, that's why."  And yet none of it mattered, because all the idiot had to say is "this makes him look bad" with a smirk on his face.  I said "most guys would love a girl who doesn't spend their money" before walking away.

Seriously, it's my choice.  And he's okay with it, because I'm not spending his hard earned money on my petty wants.

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

I go to bed tonight upset and angry at the world.


THIS MAN INFURIATES ME!P eople like this disgust me! he should be the one put in the fenced in electrified pen he preaches about.

People of HATE should not be leaders of a religion that promotes love and compassion. People of HATE should not be allowed to have people believe in them as his church apparently does.

This world is so full of hate, it makes me wonder how the hell it's lasted as long as it has.

When the world knows love, compassion, and acceptance...that is when we will all know peace.

Monday, May 21, 2012

3000! I must-have milestone post.


3000 hits!  Thanks guys  <3

The day that will go down in infamy as the day I owned an iPad 2 for 2.5 hours. or, Why I Returned An iPad Before I Even Opened the Box.

iPad 2 - i hardly knew thee.

That's right, dear readers. I jumped into the Apple tree, grabbed an iPad from the 16gb branch and returned it less than 3 hours later without so much as taking it out of the shopping bag.

So let's go back and see why i jumped into the Apple tree to begin with.

As most of you know, I'm a photographer (portrait and events) so my main reason for wanting the iPad was for business purposes.  I could make paperless contracts!  I could use Square as a register! I could have a full portfolio at my fingertips!

Also, I have been using an iPad in the school I substitute teach for the past 3 weeks and fell in love with how child friendly it is.  However, I have no children...so this was probably just me being amazed by how kids react to the device.

After months - yes, I said months - of trying to decide if I wanted the iPad at all, I decided yesterday that yes...yes I want one. 

So today after work, the Boyfriend and I went to Target to get to iPad.
2.5 hours later, I went back and returned it.

Here are the reasons that made my decision to return possible:

1. Cost.
I can get an Android tablet or a Kindle Fire for a lot cheaper.  They are not from the Apple tree, but they are still from the Orchard. They work.


2. Square works on my phone.
I wanted the iPad to be my mobile register for Square...but my phone uses square just fine!  If it ain't broken, don't fix it!


3. Gallery is cool, but I get most my clients from facebook, anyway.
I figured I could use the awesome screen for a mobile portfolio...but when i get most my inquiries from Facebook and website referrals who say they "love what they saw!" I can assume that a mobile gallery is no longer needed.  When I meet people, its usually already to sign a contract!


4. Shopping habits.
If you know me personally, then you already know that when i want to buy something...I buy it. New phone? Bought it!  New camera? Bought it! 
I usually spend a day or two deciding if i want something new, then go off and buy it.
If it is over a certain price, I will think about it for a week, obsess over it by researching every corner of the internet for info, then buy it.

I had been thinking of the iPad for months...and went to Target twice on the last week to buy it only to walk out twice empty handed.
That is not something I do when i want something!
That should've been flag number one.

Flag number two was when I didn't even take the iPad out of the bag when I got home.  I was almost afraid to get it out of the bag. No idea why!

Needless to say, I still think its a great device. If i had kids, I'm sure I would've kept it based solely on the cool kid geared apps.

But for now, its back in the Target display case...ready for someone who wants it.

Has anyone else done this before?

Sunday, May 13, 2012

I am a dog mom!

First off, happy mother's day to all you wonderful moms out there!

My mom had a great mothers day, and I had a great dog mom day!

Here is the post I made to my Facebook notes, that I decided to cross post here since I'm such a huge slacker and haven't posted in weeks.  EEK!


I am a dog mom.

I don't have kids, so my dog is my child. That makes me her Mom.

Being a Dog Mom isn't nearly as difficult as being a real Mom. But, it comes with responsibilities none the less. I see my role as nurturer, parent, and pack leader.

My job is to train her, make sure she get proper veterinarian care, and provide her with food and shelter. But, I'm also there to make sure she has fun and plays, get in her daily walks, and nurture a relationship where we love and trust one another. But as the parent, I am the boss--at least, I'd like to think so.

I want to enjoy my dog as much as possible. I might provide her with all the things above, but she gives me so much in return. She cheers me up and inspires me to greet the day with a positive attitude.

Lola is the little love of my life. She provides me with love, joy and happiness. She has the weirdest personality I have ever seen in a dog. Before her, I didn't know dogs actually went through stages like children do!  She had the baby phase, her toddler phase, she was a child and now she's a teenager. She acts like one, too!  I will never regret adopting her.  I hope she's as happy as she makes me. 

Without dogs, life doesn't quite seem the same. They are a responsibility to take seriously, but they also provide us with love and joy--things we need in our life.


(from http://www.squidoo.com/im-a-dog-mom - slightly modified to accommodate one dog, not many)

:)


***disclaimer: I did have one facebook "friend" take offense to  wishing myself and other pet parents a happy mother's day because we didn't birth our 4 legged babies.  But you know what? Not all mothers who birth children will take care of those kids like some people care for their pets!  As for me, my dog is my child. She is the apple of my eye, and no one can take that from me   :) 
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